當我們被憤怒衝昏頭腦， 會做出許多不合理的事情， 甚至造成糟糕的結果， 所以， 學會如何控制情緒， 壓制憤怒， 是我們必備的素質，
1. When you are angry say nothing
憤怒時請保持沉默
If we speak in anger we will definitely aggravate the situation and quite likely hurt the feelings of others.
人在憤怒時說出的話必定是火上澆油， 很容易傷害他人感情。
If we speak in anger we will find that people respond in kind, creating a spiral of negative anger.
我們發現， 在憤怒時講話， 對方也會消極回應， 使氣氛更加緊張。
If we can remain outwardly silent it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us.
如果能保持沉默， 或許憤怒反倒會漸漸平息。
When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.
憤怒的時候， 先數到十再開口;如果非常憤怒， 那就數到一百吧。
2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry
無視那些激怒我們的人
Some people may unfortunately take a malicious pleasure in trying to make you mad.
有些人的趣味就是那麼惡俗， 總是故意挑你生氣。
However, if we can feel indifferent to them and their words; if we feel it is beyond our dignity to even acknowledge them, then their words and actions will have no effect.
但是， 如果我們無視他們的言行， 覺得他們的言行根本就不值得費心， 那麼這些言行自然就不攻而破了。
Also, if we do not respond in any way to their provocation, they will lose interest and not bother us in the future.
而且， 不管他們怎麼挑撥， 只要我們不予理睬， 他們也會感到自討沒趣， 便也不再騷擾我們。
3. Use reason to stop anger
理智停止憤怒
When we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself ：
當我們怒上心頭時， 趕緊打住， 告訴自己：
"This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation worse".
Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to distance our self from the emotion of anger.
就算當時確實有些氣憤不過，
4. Look kindly upon Others
和善看待對方
See the anger-rousing agent as a 5 year old child.
把令人生氣的事情看成一個耍脾氣的5歲小孩吧。
If you think of the other person as a helpless 5 year old child your compassion and forgiveness will come to the fore.
who at times evoke your anger.
一旦你把對方看成一個無助的5歲小孩， 心裡就會感到同情與寬容了。
You would just feel he is just too young to know any better.
這樣你就會覺得弟弟是太小還不懂事。
This exercise may be particularly useful for close members
當家人偶爾使你抓狂時，
這個辦法確實很管用。
5. Value Peace more than ange
珍惜平和心態， 遠離憤怒情緒
If we value peace of mind as our most important treasure we will not allow anger to remain in our system.
如果將平和心態視為最重要的東西， 那我們就絕不會讓憤怒破壞它了。
You may have every right to be angry with someone, but you know that by getting angry with him you will only lose your precious peace of mind..
或許你有一萬個理由可以對一個人發火， 但是別忘了， 當你動怒時， 你也會失去你最珍貴的平和心態。